5 things you can't manifest
Everything about manifesting is so exciting! I mean, who doesn’t want to design a life they’re wildly obsessed with?
But with great power comes great responsibility and there’s something you have to be on the look out for… Which is trying to manifest the impossible.
This is not to let you down or to take away your sense of hope my job here is to empower you in an aligned way, where you work with the universe and not against it and motivate you to start consciously creating your own life.
Basically you need to be focused on what you can do rather than what you can’t.
Since I get asked about these things from time to time I thought it would be super helpful to give you the low down and bottom line.
Sometimes the way it goes is that the things we’re trying to manifest fall outside of your power.
For example, if you’re currently asking for something big and feeling frustrated or stuck, it may be that your intention falls in one of these uncontrollable realms and categories.
In case you are trying your hardest to attempt to manifest any of these things this is simply why you might not find success.
The idea is for you to get extra clear about what these areas are so that you can go back to focusing on what you CAN manifest:
1. The laws of the universe.
I really love to say that you can have, be and do anything you want in life! However that’s not the absolutely and ultimate truth. There are some completely impenetrable laws of the universe that absolutely can’t be fucked with, violated or hacked no matter how much you wish it so. Even with the faith of every human on earth, you still couldn’t change a single law of physics or universal law. There are limitations and rules of operation and flow! There’s a massive difference between manifesting a beautiful life for yourself, and attempting to rewrite the laws of reality to suit your egoic whims. I mean, ask yourself this, in any way are you trying to change the past, or fighting against something that has already happened? Because, no amount of visualization can change your life’s history. Sometimes it’s best to come to accept that something happened, that the experience was what it was, and work forward from there. There’s no good reason for you to be focused on the past when you’re currently living in your present… Which is where you create your future (in ways that you can control). There’s absolutely no point in fighting against the flow of the universe, just so that you can enable yourself to obsess over something that’s already set in stone.
Loophole: Lots of healing and manifesting techniques involve re-writing your past experiences to improve your current ones. This is where you remember things different. For example: you have always been loved (even when you feel unloved) to re-write your reality to reflect being loved NOW.
2. Other people.
One thing you can fully control is your own self. You have the ultimate gift of complete autonomy and because we are all made equal so does everyone else. That means that when you attempt to control others you’re violating their personal free will. Trying to influence people to do things solely because you want them to, expect it and for your own benefit, will be met with super mixed results. There’ll be resentment, discomfort and disharmony. Attempting to control someone’s thoughts, feelings and behaviour is such an incredibly hard thing to manage, and if you did happen to succeed, it’d 100% have its consequences (ultimately making the entire experience not worth it in hindsight). In general, people just want to be free. In all ways, from expressing themselves, just how you also desire the exact same basic rights. Often this situation happens when people are trying to manifest a specific person, but rather than letting the universe bring them someone ready, aligned and perfect just for them (if only they did the work!), they’re trying to manifest someone who’s already in another relationship! Not good! When this happens, you’re actually affecting more than just one person - it could be 3 or more! It’s just simply best for you to manifest the ideal person that’s energetically perfect for you (and how you WANT TO FEEL), instead of messing with other people’s lives.
Loophole: You can totally visualize and “see” people being happy and healing and in most cases you will see them reflect that in your reality too. But you have to selfishly want THEM to be happy, to have their good fortune increase, to be free from any pain and suffering and attachments and they will absolutely reflect that. Plus what you wish for others, you get for yourself, so this is why this practice (also known as brahmavihara) works.
3. Your own karmic path.
Certain aspects and elements of our lives were pre destined and decided before we were born. These are both our karmic and dharmic paths we we meant to walk out for our spiritual growth as souls. The obstacles and challenges we face were pre chosen specifically for us to experience them! And no amount of visualization and embodiment can change that. Before you came into this life, you chose this time and the body that you did. We chose to participate with other souls who were to be our parents, lovers, friends and children in our life. Every interaction and every person passing by. The ones closes to us are our soul families. They are the ones we’ve been incarnating with again and again and again. Lastly, our karmic path also encompasses our own deaths (not to be morbid) and that is the biggest unknown of all. It’s because of death we fear pain and suffering and even try to control everything up until the end. But that’ll never work. So why not shift your focus back toward things you can control? You can choose nearly anything, wellness, health, an amazing body, overflowing money and abundance, soulmate love, and so many wonderful things. Choose to live the best life with the best of your ability for the time that you have left while you’re here - and remember that life is actually really short, so we each have to learn quickly that we must maximize it to the fullest to our ability.
Loophole: Forgiveness, love and gratitude can clear almost the most extreme of karmas and raise even the lowest of vibrations. This is why ho’opono’pono exists and why it works. You may not be able to change much but you can absolutely change your vibration and frequency before it happens.
4. Other people’s karmic paths.
As previously mentioned, you can’t really manifest for someone else. Especially if they don’t want to personally put in the work (and that’s their choice). So taking this one step further, no-way-no-how can you change someone else’s karmic path. That means you can’t do anything about someone else’s core wounds, struggles, families, children, deaths, etc. And it’s so tempting to think that we’re only doing the best for them because we love them! However some of the chosen elements of their live are simply not for you to control or choose. It just isn’t! Sometimes we also have to learn how to say goodbye, watch as someone makes bad choices, and love someone enough to let them figure out life for themselves on their own terms. This can be tough to sit on the sidelines and not interfere with it, but at the end of the day we’re all on our own paths and need to focus on what’s going on with ourselves first and foremost. In the end, we all enter and exit this world alone and that means we can only shift what’s going on within ourselves. So if you’re feeling desperate to fix someone else in your life, this can be super tough lesson to learn. But you’ll find so much more peace when you step back and love them no matter what rather than trying to willing change upon them outside of their souls destiny and their own free will and choice.
5. The details.
The more complicated you make your manifesting the more difficult things are going to be! While most of us know this I still see so many clients who want to control all of the details around the how and when something shows up and that my girl is just too fucking much! Typically when we’re trying to control everything it’s because we don’t really have faith and trust in ourselves and the universe. So if you’ve know a control freak or are one, just know that it’s only coming from some hidden beliefs and programs lurking beneath the surface. The same thing applies to manifesting. The attachment to being in control of every little detail is also a sign that you’re not in alignment. You can’t let go of the wheel and trust because you fundamentally believe that if you do everything is going to “fall apart”. Basically that’s a pretty exhausting way to live your life and a very poor foundation to try and manifest from. If you’re spending time coming up with every last detail of your manifesting intentions, it’s time to take a step back and remember that you 10000% have to leave room for the magic to surprise you and you completely cannot do that when you’re simultaneously busy micromanaging everything!
I hope this post sheds some light on the limitations we all face on earth. Again, this is all intended to shift your focus to what you can control rather than wasting your time and energy on the things you can’t.
Thank you so much for reading and reply back to let me know your thoughts and questions.
Your teacher, guide,
and magical bodhisattva soul sister...
Tara x
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